Heh...you can all just stick to mentally worship me and masturbate to work off the sexual tension towards me. Which would mean non-stop masturbating for you lot. 8)
anyways...i'll try not to let my sex-appeal influence this convo any further.
Back to J's problem; how can you tell if someone is stalking you or not. I would say, the moment you notice them appearing in places where they have no connections whatsoever. I.e. a party in your hometown while you know himher from uni etc., on compareable occasions. That's about the only thing together with them doing stake-outs at your door or breaking and entering your home so smell your stuff and whatnot.
Btw J, you look like you had a position in those student associations, cantor maybe?
If you did; ever had your "ceremonial ribbon" stolen?
P.S. In Belgian student associations all members of the "praesidium", the board of the association, have a ceremonial ribbon. The most prominent members of the board are usually: praeses and vice-praeses (president and vice), quastor (fincancial secretary), cantor (organizes beer-singing festivals), and "schachtentemmer", "newbie-tamer" if you will. They train, humiliate and condition the new members into obedience.
Then there are a row of lesser functions: PR, culture, and other stuff depending on the course the organiaztion is on. Blah.
Anyways; members of a praesidium can enter any party of a befriended organization for free if they are wearing their ceremonial ribbon. But if they lose their ribbon (read: it gets stolen) during a party for obvious concentrational reasons, they have to pay the person who obtained it an amount of beer, usually a crate, the amount depends on the importance of the person's ribbon and the wealth of the organization. Usually a preases-ribbon will get you a keg.
I stole some 3 lesser ribbons and a vice-praeses once, got me some good stuff. But i never joined an organizition myself tho, not my style. Oh, and the names and functions of the persons are engraved in the ribbons, obviously, to simplify things.
Feel free to add anything you'd like to that explanation J.