Hehe, true, we aren't exactly very open to 'help', but hey...gotta do something to look tough!
As for there being something wrong and women not telling...there's a classic scene about it, can't remember which tv shows but anyway:
Man and woman lying in bed, woman with sad face and sighing.
Man: everything alright dear?
Woman: yeah...yeah, sure. (still sad face)
Man: ok then, night! (turns over, puts out the light)
It's that discrepancy between what is actually going on and what they say that Satis pointed out, I guess.
@ him for monastary remark btw. Sad thing is that it's pretty true.